Nature & Nurture

The greatest forces that shape our lives. Nature, who we are at our deepest level, something we didn't choose. Nurture, what we do and what was done to ourselves from birth, something that we can partially control.
The job of being an adult, from my point of view, is to remove your "self" from the tight grip of your childhood. To be able to self determine. To choose who we are, and to be able to re-create this person over, and over, and over until satisfaction. Not that anything in our childhood or genetic inheritance is wrong. But we need to claim it as our own in order to be emotionally free.
I believe that one has to nurture what nature gives you. That is what parents are supposed to do, and that is what we have to learn to do for ourselves.